Falling in love with a married/committed man is the greatest risk a woman/girl can take in her personal life. Thankfully all women know it by instinct, but not surprisingly many fall for it. It would be helpful to consider these points given before you take a giant but irreversible leap.
1. Is he a committed husband to someone, but accidentally, by situation became your lover?
This is a dead end. He will sure go back to his wife. Help him to do so. Control your emotions and ease his burden. Otherwise one day, you will be in such a messy situation that you won’t even recognize yourself.
2. He is a husband, but he is going to divorce soon.
Are you sure? All men say that and only around 7% does. So it is safe to continue relation only after his divorce. It’s not about you don’t believe in him, it all about saving your life. And is he divorcing her only because you came into his life? Beware; tomorrow the same will happen to you as someone else comes into his life.
3. We won’t marry, we will remain as lovers without our partners knowing it.
My personal opinion is that affairs and corpses cannot be hidden for a long time. Ask a policeman, I am sure he will agree with me. Even if you are successful in hiding it, you will be always tensed and sad in this relationship. And believe me, in the end, more fingers will be pointed at you than at him.
A relationship exists because of mutual trust, truthfulness and commitment. In these kinds of extramarital affairs you won’t get any of these. If you are attracted to a married man, avoid even talking to him. Give yourself some time. I promise it will go away.
And one more word, if you are a teenager, the risks are too high. JUST BEWARE!
This is a good post!
I don’t know why a lot of woman and men get themselves into these sticky situations. It’s hard to tell who to blame? The woman for falling in love with a married man or the man who lead the woman on?
Either way… it’s wrong and it destroys families.
I have fallen in love with a married man…but only because I was told in the beginning of our friendship that his marriage had been over for sometime already. The friendship then turned to what i would call an emotional affair, and Although we have tried to wait for his life to be sorted out it is much easier said than done. Recently his wife discovered that we have this relationship and I must say I have been very shocked by her seeing their marriage not as broken down as he does. Our relationship borders on many fences….for one we have never met, we live in two different countries and yet there is a bond between us that cannot be explained. He is in the process of moving out this week, and this is how my involvement has come to light, even though he assures me he was leaving home anyway. I cannot help but feel guilty either way, the last thing I ever wanted was to be a home wrecker as some people say……I am really in love with him and I often wonder if it is easy to shut off something like this…….He says his future is with me and yet I am so confused by this all…..
Am in love with a married man.. We are going out it’s been 1 and a half years…
I just cnt trust him.. It’s really difficult to be in that sort of relationship, believe me….
And am still 18….
:S
He told me he will leave his wife for me, but now tells me that it will take years for him to do so….
Am confused!!!