When you breakup with your boyfriend, make sure that you get all your love letters back. Don’t feel bad about it, ask them back! If you don’t do it then, later it may be a menace. You might feel like asking to give your letters back is distrusting him and might add up more pain to both already grieving hearts. Don’t trust your feelings, just get those letters back.

After the breakup, I have seen men trying to cajole girls/women back into the relationship. They beg and plead. When these don’t seem to work, many threaten to make those private, intimate love letters public. Don’t give your boyfriend this chance. Get letters back when hearts and relationship are still warm.

And regarding emails, they are less harmful. But I would suggest you open a specific mail ID for these romantic purposes. Like if you are Janet, try jalove67@msn.com or something like that. And don’t send any mail to someone other than your boyfriend from this ID.

If he is not willing to give your letters back, keep on insisting. Don’t believe him if he says he has destroyed them or want to keep them for memories. And as long as possible, don’t involve his parents, friends or your friends, as it might back fire.

But remember one thing, even if he does not give it back, life moves on. After a while he will lose interest in you as another girl comes in his life or as time passes by, then he will destroy them. And if life was that affected by these stupid things boys do, half of our entire women population should have been worried to death. Clearly, as you can see that this is not the case, just carry on. There is nothing much to worry about.