Shall I leave my boyfriend? Almost 4 years ago one of my cousins asked me this “boyfriend” question. She was in her college, could make her own decisions regarding love as she was already 23 at that time. I was far away from home and on a Saturday night I’ve called her. She said she has already broken that relationship. Although it was over, she was not feeling ok. Sad and desperate, she failed in her semester exams and was on the verge of being a drop out. Thankfully, she bounced back soon.
It seems it was a better decision for her to leave her boyfriend. She found the initial sparks missing. So if you are planning to leave your boyfriend, consider these points. You can take a decision according to your answers.
1. Leave your boyfriend if you don’t miss him anymore like you used to do.
This does not mean that you don’t love him. This feeling usually accompanies after the initial period of falling in love. It may mean your relationship has grown into another level, more matured one, where you know he is always there. You have crossed the initial attraction phase and moved into a long term relationship phase. So don’t worry about these types of feelings.
But a word of caution! Not missing him can also be a part of not being interested in him too. If you don’t miss him, weigh it with other points we are going to discuss below. Together, they will help you decide.
2. Leave your boyfriend if your arguments are long lasting and they recur very often.
After the initial thrill is gone, the facts slowly move in. It’s healthy to argue as no two persons can agree on everything. But it is unhealthy when it happens often and lasts long. If your arguments dominate your meetings, then the chances are strong that the relationship will not last long.
3. Leave your boyfriend if you argue over the phone very often
My experience with people suggests that arguing over the phone many times indicate a dead end. You both will feel tired about it and always think not to fight, but as when you are on the phone, it automatically happens.
4. Leave your boyfriend if he is making you spiritually dull
You know what I mean. A relationship should help both of you grow together, emotionally, physically and spiritually. If you feel like he is hindering any of these growth, its time you think about options.
5. Leave your boyfriend if you think he has only sex in his mind.
Men are more sexually active. All women know it. Some men have a bit more drive than others, which is normal. But if you think your boyfriend is after you only for sex, just RUN away. Hope you are getting what I mean. Otherwise you will end up an emotional wreck.
6. Leave your boyfriend if he is cheating on you.
Do I have to tell you more? Give him another chance if you want to, but be respectful of your emotions. Tell him straight. Love forgives, but thy shall not experiment with love.
Please know that people love like a sine wave, up and down, periodically. Our intimate intensities won’t be always same. So think clearly. Ask your heart. It may not be easy. But if you don’t do it now, it will be too long.
My best wishes.
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